☀️ if your energy feels weird: it might be this...

I thought I was supposed to be the world’s most extroverted extrovert, but something was always a little off...

For years, even though I loved people, loved parties, loved the energy of a full room…after a big social event, I’d crash. I’d crave solitude. I’d covet the visual of hibernating with a book and not talking to anyone for two whole days.

Then, after two days alone, I’d be pacing my kitchen, convinced I might actually die of loneliness if I didn’t get some human contact IMMEDIATELY.

Hi, I’m Katie, and I’m an ambivert.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. It’s a spectrum. Most people are not 100% one or the other despite how funny the memes are.

And anyway the label doens't really matter anyway—it’s about knowing when your energy balance is off and how to recharge.

Quick Recharge Guide

Introverts: Fill your tank with solitude and low-stimulus activities. Think: a long walk, a journal session, or a solo coffee.
Extroverts: Refill with connection. Text a friend, hit a group workout, or plan a lunch.
Ambiverts: You need both. Build a rhythm that alternates between connection and retreat. After a people-heavy week, schedule quiet time. After too much solo time, plan a friend date or co-working session. And my personal favorite ambivert hack: work alone in a crowd. Somewhere you can glean the energy from other people without having to actually engage or “carry” the interaction.

Q: What if I’m TRAPPED?
5 Hacks for Recharging Around People when you’re Peopled Out

Sometimes, you don’t have the luxury of complete alone time—like when you’re trapped in a house with toddlers or stuck at a family reunion.

Here’s how to micro-recharge in the middle of the chaos:

Find a mini bubble: Take three deep breaths in the bathroom.
Change your focus: Put in earbuds with calming music while you prep snacks or fold laundry.
Claim a small ritual: Light a candle while you do dishes or make a special cup of tea—something that feels secretly yours.
Stoop break: Can you slip outside with a sparkling water ( Limoncello La Croix, anyone?) and sit on your front stoop or back deck with the doors closed—even for five minutes? Tiny pockets of quiet count. A closed door can be a powerful tool.
Pause, don’t disappear: Even a 5-minute reset can calm your nervous system and stretch your patience.

Think of these as “energy sips” until you can get the full refill you really need.

Your Action Step

Ask yourself: What does my energy need today? A pause, a party, or a tiny, stolen moment to breathe? Then give yourself permission to take it—without guilt.

And if anyone catches you hiding on the stoop, just raise your La Croix and say,
“Just an overstimulated woman doing her best, my friend. Carry on.” And give them a little wink.

Which one are you? Hit Reply and let me know. I’d love to know where my fellow ambiverts at!

xoxo-Katie Day

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